Book Review by Kerrie Allen
THE CASE FOR MARRIAGE: Why Married People are Happier, Healthier, and Better off Financially.
by Linda J. Waite and Maggie Gallagher
(Broadway Books, 2000, 260pp, $29.90.Available from AD Books)
The Case for Marriage provides the solid research facts about why marriage is a social good, more than just sex – and why sex is better in marriage – and why marriage is good for men and women, as it is for children. The authors examine one of the most powerful myths in society today that marriage is good for men but bad for women. This myth, promulgated by feminists since as far back as the 1960s, and still rife in our universities today, is that marriage is crippling and destructive to women.The overwhelming evidence today, after allowing for the many variables, shows the contrary: marriage is good for women’s health and also good for their emotional, sexual, physical and economic health. And it is the same for married men. The old adage that women care more about marriage than men is also debunked. Researchers using a measure for personal dedication found men and women equally valued their spouse as the most important person in their lives and were both willing to sacrifice, invest and strive for their spouse’s well-being. While sex is a very important part of marriage, it is not (as with cohabitators) the defining characteristic of the relationship. When it comes to sex, rather than marriage being a “ball and chain” that dampens or ends one’s sex life, married men and women report greater sexual satisfaction than cohabitating couples and singles. [Read more…]